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Love Communication

In Chapman’s book directed towards married couples he suggests the idea that each individual has a primary love language. This is the way that individuals express love emotionally to one another. Although there are many ways to express love Chapman believes that they can be simplified and categorized into five categories. The five categories include; words of affirmation, quality time, gifts, acts of service, and physical touch.
Individuals that receive love from others by way of words of affirmation feel loved when they receive verbal compliments and words of encouragement. Those that fall under this category need words to touch. It doesn’t matter how else love is expressed if it is not expressed through words, or sweet written notes the love does not reach them and leaves them empty.
Spending time with your partner is very important, but to some it is especially important. Spending time together doesn’t necessarily mean that it is quality. Undivided attention and focus on the opposite partner is important for the time spent together to be quality. Conversation is just one way to express quality time, members in this category also like time spent going on walks or going on road trips.
Gifts are also a love category classified by Chapman. To some gifts are just expressions of birthdays or holidays, but to those classified in this category gifts are an expression of love that fill the “love tank”. Love is expressed by boxes wrapped with bows, and ribbon. It may seem that these are just material possessions, but to those receiving the gift, it means so much more.
When service is thought of most think of just being kind and selfless. This kind of love expression requires time, selflessness, and pure love. For one to feel loved they expect, deeds, chores, favors, and acts of kindness directed towards them. To members in this category this resembles love. When received that is the time when one feels most loved.
We see physical touch all around, hugs, kisses or holding hands, and multiple other expressions. To some a touch serves a whole different meaning, love. Touch is how one recognizes appreciation and love. Physical touch is held dear to hearts where this is the primary love language.